Right and Wrong Decisions

I am still reading Deepak Chopra's book The Book of Secrets, and there is an awesome section that talks about right and wrong decisions.  It really is the basis of so much of our fear in our lives because it seems like we fear judgment from others on the choices we make, and we think they will reject us because of it.  

I try to remember that those who truly know me will not judge me harshly, and my true friends will never forsake me because of my decisions.  The "Them" that we fear judging us are those that would judge us without knowing us or all the facts.  Do we really care what those people think?  Those who make judgments without knowing all the important facts?  If you wouldn't give them your money to invest for you then don't give them your life to judge either.



From The Book of Secrets:

"Right and wrong decisions:  If you obsess over where you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another.  This isn't a correct assumption because the universe is flexible - it adapts to every decision you make.  Right and wrong are only mental constructs.  Immediately I can hear strong emotional objections to this.  What about Mr Right? What about the perfect job? What about buying the best car?  We are all in the habit of looking like consumers at people, jobs, and cars, wanting best value for the money.  But in reality the decisions we label as right and wrong are arbitrary.  Mister Right is one of a hundred or a thousand people you could spend a satisfying life with.  The best job is impossible to define, given that jobs turn out to be good or bad depending on a dozen of factors that come into play only after you start the job.  (Who knows in advance what your co-workers will be like, what the corporate climate is, whether you will have the right idea at the right moment?)  And the best car may get driven into an accident two days after you buy it.

"The universe has no fixed agenda.  Once you make any decision, it works around that decision.  There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling and action that you experience.  If this sounds too mystical, refer again to your body.  Every significant vital sign - body temperature, heart rate, oxygen consumption, hormone level, brain activity, and so on - alters the moment you decide to do anything.  A runner's metabolism can't afford to be as low as the metabolism of someone reading a book because, without increased air intake and faster heart rate, the runner would suffocate and collapse with muscle spasms.

"Decisions are signals telling your body, mind, and environment to move in a certain direction.  It may turn out afterward that you feel dissatisfied with the direction you've taken, but to obsess over right and wrong decisions is the same as taking no direction at all.  Keep in mind that you are the choice-maker, which means that who you are is far more than any single choice you have ever made or ever will make."



Amazing!  Might I also add that who we are is also more that what any one else decides we are.  We have the power of our BEING.

Love to all!  Brudda Zen